Now you're married all that's left is the groom's speech

Traditionally the Groom's speech is between the father of the bride speech and the best man speech. You get the chance to say thank you to all the people who helped organise the wedding. Remember that if your bride isn't making a speech include her thanks in yours.

When people complain about a speech it is usually because it was too long! If you can do a brilliant speech in 5 minutes please don't try to make it last 15 minutes. Say what you want to and enjoy the rest of the day. 

By the time you get to the speech making part of the wedding, you can relax. You're married now so just enjoy the rest of the day!

Open your mouth

As with all speeches, your main priority in your groom's speech is to make sure you can be heard. Make sure the words you say can get out of your mouth. Don't try to talk like a ventriloquist through closed lips. If the sound is to get out of your mouth you need to open your mouth! If you look in a mirror and say the word 'eye' you should be able to put at least two fingers and possibly three fingers vertically in your mouth! 

Making mistakes during your Groom's speech

Don't worry about making mistakes - if you don't make a fuss about them most people won't even notice so don't apologise unless it's something very important. Anyway it's your day and you're allowed to make mistakes if you want to!

Not too fast

You know what you want to say and you want to get it over with as soon as possible - but don't speak too quickly. Let the wedding guests have time to take in what you have said. Pause at every full stop and comma, this may feel very slow to you but I promise you it won't sound it.


If you feel nervous - smile - it is your wedding after all! Smiling will also prevent your mouth from drying out.

Don't talk down onto the table, make sure that you look at the guests and direct your words where you want them to go.

A speaker who fidgets is very difficult to listen to. The listeners are too busy watching and waiting for the next fidget!

If you would like help with your Groom's speech please enrol on one of my online courses or book a skype lesson with me