Best Man's Speech

Best Man's Speech! Me? you must be joking.......your best friend has done it - he's getting married and he's asked you to be his best man. Brilliant ...... but what about the best man's speech?

Don't let it spoil your day... giving a speech can be fun.

Don't get carried away

You may have some wonderfully embarrassing stories you would love to tell but remember his parents and grandparents and new wife are all listening so make it fun and make fun of him but don't go too far!

Don't speak too fast

Most people talk much too quickly when giving a best man's speech, so the first thing to do is slow down. It may feel painfully slow to you but you must give the guests listening a chance to take in what you're saying.

There are two easy ways to do this.

First, just make sure that you open your mouth a little wider than you do in usual conversation. This makes it a lot easier for the sound to come out and means that you speak just a fraction slower.

Another foolproof way of slowing down only works when you are reading your speech - which I would highly reccommend. There's enough to remember as Best Man  without having to worry about words of a speech! Anyway - everytime you come to a fullstop or comma in your speech, just say 'fullstop' or 'comma' to yourself - easy and anyone can do it!

Try it now - just pick up a magazine or book that happens to be on the desk next to the computer. Now read aloud a couple of sentences, remembering to say the 'comma' or 'fullstop' to yourself. Easy!

Another way to slow down is to practise these exercises which will help you to open your mouth correctly. 

Your Best Man Suit

Strangely enough what you wear can effect how you speak. Your suit may feel a bit tight or you might feel too hot, it might be a style you'd never, ever wear in your ordinary life. Learning how to deliver your best man's speech when you feel self conscious about your wedding suit is possible. Even best men who wear an ordinary everyday suit can feel uncomfortable.

So if possible try to practice your speech at least once dressed in your wedding attire or at least in something very similar.

Read the speech

 I would always recommend reading yourbest man's speech. This has two advantages.

First, you don't need to spend sleepless nights worrying about remembering your lines.

Secondly, it gives you something to do with your hands while you talk.

Always underline the first sentence and final sentence of your speech along with any other important words. When you're reading your bridesmaid speech try to look up at the guests when you get to the underlined parts. One last tip - whether you write (or print) your speech on cards or on paper, only write on one side. You can guarantee that if you write on both sides, you'll read the wrong side when you're speaking!

Ends of words are important

If you've got some elderly people at the reception make extra sure that you sound the last consonant in every word. If you don't emphasize the last consonant of a word the people sitting at the back and those with hearing problems will find it almost impossible to distinguish between words.

For example, the difference between rum, run and rub is only the last letter. If your audience can't hear the last sound all they will hear is 'ru..'. They will have to guess which word you have spoken.

Exercises to practise at home can be found here. Taking the time to finish these words will also slow your speech down.

Can I help you with your Best man's speech?

If you would like help enrol on one or more of my online courses or book a skype lesson with me.

How to Speak Clearly & Confidently
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This video course will teach you how to speak clearly and demonstates how to make what you say sound interesting. It is very much like the first lesson I would teach you face to face but you have the added advantage that you can watch it over and over again. There are plenty of opportunities for you to join in and repeat and try out the things I suggest. How to speak clearly and confidently will teach you how to speak  so that you will find making presentations, talking to people at work or school much easier and less stressful. You also get a free download of my ebook. Remember - you can watch it over and over again forever!  

Voice exercises to improve your speaking voice and pronunciation
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This course will never become outdated - it will always be essential for clear speech. 

This isn't aimed particularly at people who have English as an additional language, about 50% of my pupils over the last twenty years have  English as their first  or only language and they just want to improve their pronunciation and how they speak. Let's take a simple example – how should you pronounce the word 'our'? About 75% of people say 'are' when it should be 'hour'.

This course focuses on voice exercises for most of the vowel and consonant sounds made in English. I cover 16 vowel sounds and 23 consonant sounds as well as a few oddities of English pronunciation. I will show you how these sounds should be made, what shape your mouth should be, where your tongue should be and you will hear what they should sound like. In each lecture there is an opportunity for you to repeat the exercises after me.  Each sound has it's own lesson so you can jump around and pick on the sounds you need to improve. 

Only £9.99 for the full course

'Recommend to all speakers of the English Language who wish to improve or correct their pronunciation. The Teacher has a great way of explaining concepts and the reasons why a pronunciation should be correctly pronounced in a certain way. I like the tutor's way of teaching,which is a traditional style,that has substance and clarity. Video and Audio quality is very good.' - Shaun, Aug 2018

'I had a mumbling issue which led me to go to a speech therapist and pay £100 per session, after losing £200 and still not having a solution, I came across this course and I had quickly found the solution to my problem. Over and above that, I got a lot more out of this course, more than anything a real enlightenment as to how I speak, how that comes across and how I can improve my speech to get better outcomes out of conversations and speeches. Thank you Serena.' Reuben, Aug 2018